A LOVE GONE WRONG.

AVOIDING UNDESIRABLE LOVE

FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO BE VALUABLE, it has to be “going somewhere.” If your relationship is “going nowhere” you have to get out as quickly as possible. Of course, life is even more complicated and so too is the EXPERT commentary on it: People rely mostly on advices when making choices about a significant relationship. As each person is an individual—- distinct, so too is each romantic relationship. One can never know what is truly going on between 2 people and we’d all be much better off if we keep this in mind.

CONSISTENTLY, BECAUSE IT IS INEVITABLE that in any on-going romantic engagement, one is going to be deeply hurt at some point. What ultimately counts is if and how the people involved repair—- and share the hurt.


INDICATORS OF A LOVE GONE BAD

TO DESERVE BETTER :
Clearly, this reflects one party’s dissatisfaction with the behavior or characteristics of the other. It also conveys an idea what others presume with respect to our choice of a partner. The crucial point is that if it to “deserve better”—- indicates that someone else is disapproving and tells us that at least one party is feeling disappointed. Really we don’t know much about what’s up. Understanding what’s going on when someone feels disappointed—- not just placing blame—- is crucial.
CHEATING AND MONOGAMY :
Focusing for the moment on only those relationships in which there has been an explicit agreement about sexual fidelity is a curiously overwrought aspect to the indignation and injury that accompanies this infraction. Humiliation is the public aspect of the experience. Shame is the feeling that something is wrong. Couples are made to hew a very narrow conception of what is acceptable between 2 people who love each other.
AS A RELATIONSHIP LEADS “TO SOMEWHERE.” :
The magical location is typically understood as a permanent monogamous relationship—- generally, marriage—- often with children. Again, using a single, confining standard to determine what constitutes a valuable relationships leaves too many people outside the limits of what is permissible.

OVERCOMING A LOVE MISTAKEN

RELATIONSHIP DO GO BACK and that is just the way it is. People have very diverse personalities and not everyone is going to get along. Personalities will ultimately clash and people will have different set of beliefs and morals. This is when it is time to look for someone who is more compatible. There should be love, respect, tolerance, and patience in a healthy relationship. If someone starts to feel a sense of hate towards their significant other, then that is a sign to get out right away before it becomes lethal to both partners.

LOVE AND HATE ARE PASSIONS AND AS SUCH SOMEWHAT BEYOND THE CONTROL OF THE PERSON EXPERIENCING THIS EMOTIONS. WHEN A RELATIONSHIP HAS GONE BAD, THE SAME OR GREATER INTENSITY OF HATE IS EXPERIENCED TOWARDS THE WAYWARD LOVER. A PERSON ACTING OUT OF THIS FEELINGS IS AGAIN SOMEWHAT “OUT OF CONTROL” AND MAYBE TOTALLY FOCUSED ON HIS OR HER ANGER RATHER THAN REALITY.