ACHIEVING A HAPPY MARRIAGE
WHAT AN IDEAL MARRIAGE IS
TOGETHER WITH THEIR FAMILIES and friends, a couple is full of hopes and dreams for their future life together. But the road to a happy marriage is far from easy. And as today’s divorce statistics demonstrate all too well, many couples opt not to complete the journey. It would be easy to blame our high rate of marital failure on things like not spending enough quality time together, allowing bitterness and resentment to build in our hearts and failing to keep communication lines open. There’s no ends to books, articles and seminars that tells you how to improve these and many other aspects of your relationships. But while quality time, forgiveness and communication are vitally important to creating a happy marriage, if such things aren’t happening, it’s usually a sign of a much deeper problem. And until this problem is addressed, no amount of external behavior modification will work.
A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
WHEN YOU’RE CAUGHT UP in the excitement of your wedding, it can be hard to imagine that you and your spouse may not live happily ever after. But sharing your life with another person can be a challenge, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with relationships. MARRIAGES takes work, commitment, and love, but they also need respect to be truly happy and successful. A marriage based on love and respect don’t just happens. Both spouses have to do their part. Talking with your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage healthy and successful. Be honest about what you’re feeling, but be kind and respectful when you communicate. Part of good communication is being a listener, and taking the time to understand what it is your spouse wants and needs from you. Keep the lines of communication open by talking often, and not just about things like bills and kids. Share your thoughts and feelings.
APPRECIATE EACH OTHER, your relationship, your family, and your lives together. Show gratitude when your partner does household works chores. It may help to take a few minutes each evening to tell each other at least one thing you appreciated that day.
AN ENDURING MARRIAGE IN LIFE
WITH WORK AND FAMILY responsibilities, it can be easy to lose the romance factor. Plan a special dates, either to go out or just stay at home. If you have children, send them on a play date, while you relax, talk and enjoy each other’s company. A lone time is just as important as couple time. Everyone needs time recharge, think, and enjoy personal interests. That time is often lost when you’re married, especially if you have kids. Go out with friends, take a class or volunteer works, whatever you find enriching. When you’re back together with you’re spouse, you’ll appreciate each other even more.
BUILD TRUST, IT’S VERY IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE. Criticism, contempt and defensiveness, and stonewalling are serious threats to a marriage. The more couple engages in these destructive activities, the more likely they are to divorce. They are more likely to respond quickly to each other’s wishes to make up after fights and repair the relationship.
EVERYONE MAKE MISTAKES. Your spouse may hurt your feelings or do something that upsets you, and that may makes you angry, even furious. But it’s important to deal with your feelings, let them go, and move on, don’t keep bringing up the past. REMEMBER TO REMAIN COMMITTED TO YOUR SPOUSE, YOUR FAMILY, AND THE LIFE YOU HAVE BUILT TOGETHER. SUPPORT EACH OTHER EMOTIONALLY AND IN EVERYDAY WAYS. YOU, YOUR SPOUSE AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP MAY GROW AND CHANGE WITH TIME, BUT THESE IDEAS CAN HELP YOUR MARRIAGE STAY SUCCESSFUL OVER THE YEARS.
Relationship goals 