LOVE AND AWARENESS

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN A RELATIONSHIP


BASIC IDEAS IN LOVE CONSCIOUSNESS

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE[EQ] is the secret of lasting intimae relationship, largely because it makes us extremely aware of the changes—- large and small—- that are constantly occurring in ourselves and others. By building your emotional intelligence[EQ], you’ll have the sensitivity that each of us is always seeking in a significant other. You’ll automatically sense through active awareness and sympathy, the little shifts and dynamics of your romance that signals a need for actions.

WE HAVE THE POTENTIAL to attain the kind of love we all dream of—- deep intimacy, mutual kindness, real commitment and self caring—- simply because of empathy, our innate ability to share emotional experience. But to reach the height of romance, we need all the skills of a high EQ: sharp emotional awareness to avoid mistaking information or just for lasting love, acceptance to experience emotions that could harm a relationship if left to fester; and a vigilant active awareness to appraise us of what working and what is not.


BUILDING EMOTIONAL ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP

WE DON’T HAVE TO CHOOSE the wrong lovers, ends up in multiple failed marriages, or let the romance seeps out of our long-term relationships. We don’t have to let conflicting needs and wants to come between 2 people who love each other. We don’t have to resign ourselves to boredom or bickering in our love lives. We have the potential to attain the kind of love we all dream of—- deep intimacy and mutual kindness, real committed soulful caring—- simply because of empathy and our innate ability to share emotional experience. But to achieve those relationship goals, we need all the skills of a high EQ :

ASTUTE EMOTIONAL WARENESS to avoid mistaking infatuation or lust for lasting love
ACCEPTANCE TO EXPERIENCE emotions that could harm a relationship if left to fester
VIGILANT ACTIVE AWARENESS to appraise us of what’s working and what is not.
FORTUNATELY, YOUR EQ doesn’t need to have peaked before you embarked on love. In fact, for many people, falling in love serves as motivation for re-educating the heart. That’s why some of the most deeply passionate lovers are. They discover that 2 high EQs adds up to a romance that never stops growing, never loses excitement, and always strengthens them both, individually as well as collectively.


FACING CHANGES AND CHALLENGES

WHEN YOU RIDE OUT your fear of change, you discover that difference does not necessarily mean worse. Things often comes out better than ever on the other side of change. Relationships are organisms themselves, and by nature must change. Any relationships not nudged towards the kind of growth you want, will drift into changes of another kind—- maybe one you don’t want. Your ability to embrace change pays off in courage and optimism. Ask yourself, does your lover needs something new from you ? Do you need to schedule some time to re-evaluate together ? Are external influences demanding a change in your respective roles ? Without EQ such questions are often just too scary to face, so much lovers ignore signals of change until it’s too late.

YOUR COURAGE AND OPTIMISM allows you to view dilemmas not as problems, but as challenging opportunities. How creative the 2 of you be ? When you don’t need to blame each other for your emotions, you’re not controlled by negative emotional memories, and you’re alert not to repeat the same old mistakes.

WHEN YOU HAVE A HIGH EQ, YOU’RE LIBERATED FROM RUTS AND RESIGNATION, AND YOU CAN GET DOWN TO RESOURCEFUL PROBLEM SOLVING. YOU CAN MAKE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN YOU AND UNAVOIDABLE CRISIS, AS INVITATIONS TO FIND EACH OTHER, CHALLENGES TO GET CLOSER AND EMERGE INDIVIDUALITY AND COLLECTIVELY STRONGER. ✍✍ 💢 💥 ✨ ✅